Dating on demand mr whiskers
I arrived at work, making my usual rounds saying hello to my coworkers and supervisor. When our mate begins pulling away the prospect of losing the entire relationship can become scary; however, with a little attention and care the fear factor can be reduced and possibly eliminated. As pretty as I felt when I first put on my awesome outfit, it did not hold up; and, I did not trust that my spirit was telling me something was wrong.
The day went as planned and I thought I was on fire and in the zone. As I was using the restroom I noticed I could see the floor through my pants (I was squatting at the time) immediately becoming horrified. The only reason I did not show any body parts or my Spanx was because I had a long white shirt to cover my backside. Therefore you must first look at your entire relationship (i.e., ‘the good’, ‘the bad’ and ‘the ugly’) and process what you feel.
Secondly, after careful review and processing, develop a plan to effectively address (e.g., speak with your mate in a respectful manner, increase the listening and decrease the complaining, etc.) and prepare to receive feedback (e.g., taking responsibility for role, hearing results of your actions, etc.).
Reflect on your own perceptions When a man pulls away, you might panic and think, “What did I do? Or, maybe he has his own issues relating to being controlled, and wants to figure out if he can get *enough* space to manage this fear within your relationship.
He may be checking to see that he’s not pressured by you and is able to take healthy space.
The key here is to help the parts of your mind that are stuck reacting to old recorded wounding messages.
Consider that this is the only *authentic* reason to enter a love relationship in the first place.